How I Work with Couples

I see couples for 75-minute sessions, weekly or biweekly depending on what the work requires. Below are the most common reasons couples reach out to me. If you're not sure whether your situation fits, schedule a free consultation and we'll talk it through.

Communication and Conflict

Most couples don't have a communication problem, they have a pattern problem. The same fight keeps happening because the underlying dynamic hasn't changed. Using the Gottman Method, we'll identify the specific patterns keeping you stuck and build concrete skills for handling conflict, repair, and connection differently.

Infidelity and Rebuilding Trust

Discovery of an affair is one of the most painful experiences a couple can face. Whether you're trying to repair the relationship or decide if repair is possible, I work with couples through the full arc, from immediate crisis through long-term rebuilding. I follow a no-secrets policy regarding ongoing affairs and provide structured support for both the betrayed and the betraying partner.

Premarital Counseling

Couples who do premarital work have meaningfully better outcomes in the first years of marriage. We'll cover communication, conflict styles, expectations around money, sex, family, and the patterns each of you brings from your families of origin. Most couples need 6-10 sessions; I can also offer a more concentrated format if you're working under a wedding timeline.

Desire Differences and Intimacy

Differences in sexual desire are one of the most common, and most painful, issues couples face. We'll work to understand what's underneath the difference (which is rarely just about sex), build emotional and physical safety, and help both partners feel heard rather than rejected or pressured.

Sexual Concerns

I'm comfortable working with sexual issues directly and explicitly. For specific concerns like premature ejaculation, I draw on cognitive-behavioral techniques that have strong evidence. For some men, a combination of behavioral therapy and medical intervention produces the best outcomes. When that's the case, I work collaboratively with your physician or can help facilitate that conversation. For broader sexual disconnection, we work with both the relational dynamics and the practical mechanics together.

Disconnection and Emotional Drift

Some couples don't have a crisis. They have a slow loss of intimacy that's accumulated over years. Kids, careers, fatigue, and time pull people apart. The work is rebuilding the friendship, the desire, and the small daily moments that make a relationship feel alive.